MIDGAME / ‘GET TOGETHER’ STUFF:
When you get together with chicks, you can stuck in a fucking AFC TRAP.
One of the big probs with ‘get togethers’, even after TIGHT pickups, is getting out of the AFC FRAME. This is a SERIOUS problem, that I STILL have a sticking point with. I know HOW to get out of it, but I can’t actually do it 100% of the time.
One of the problems with this medium (internet), is that we can convey LINES, and STRATEGIES, but we can’t really convey ACTIONS and DELIVERY in the same level of detail.
No matter HOW detailed my post is, its just DAMNED hard to convey this kind of thing. But what can I do?? Let’s give it a SHOT… 🙂
The chick may be perceiving you as ALPHA and immediate-fuck worthy during the PU, but once she’s had time to re-affirm her “worth” and “fortitude” between the PU and the get-together, she’s placed you back into a BETA/AFC frame.
Or maybe its not even that, but that you didn’t blend attraction generating strategies with rapport building strategies. Or maybe she’s a party-chick, who only likes to bang guys she just met either way. There’s TONS of reasons that she’s slotted you AFC by the meet, but it doesn’t MATTER, so long as you dig yourself OUT of that categorization.
You may have even gotten a tongue-down at the meet, but when you get there for the meet-up, she’s acting like she got back from charm-school.
A few months ago, I had a chick tell me that its ON next time we meet (since the grocery store was closed and we couldn’t get condoms late at night in Kingston). I call her to pick her up a few days later, and she wants to “meet at the coffee shop” instead of her house. We meet, and I try to move us to another venue (since I’m gonna make up an excuse to isolate), and she REFUSES.
Similarly, I had a chick who was implying “go home together” at the club. Since I usually don’t like ONS from clubs, I declined, but said meet up for tomorrow. Next day she was all LOVING ME, but HOLDING OUT since she was playing “The Rules” style shit on me.
This shit happens ALL THE TIME, when you’re using solid ASF tactics to FORCE meetups. For me, instead of asking for a #, I’ll set a MEET time and date right there. This is FAR less likely to get flakes than a # where I live, since its a smaller place and the chick KNOWS that I’ll see her again and be pissed off, if she stands me up. Not to mention that I give her the “I don’t tolerate flaky people who are into a plan one minute, but aren’t cool and motivated enough to stick to it.. are you one of those people???” whole speil. So naturally, I don’t get many flakes – but I DO get this “cold phenomenon” on certain occasions.
Overnight, it has turned from a “fuck thing”, to a “AFC old fashioned date”, where she’s not being playful or touchy/feely, you’re both kinda uncomfortable 1950s style, and the natural chemistry is AWOL.
So what is the ANSWER???
Women are ADAPTABLE, and FLUID. They ADAPT to the frame that YOU set.