The Importance of Environment on Your State, pt. 2

More on state breakers. I’ve never yet had sex with any girl under a hot 7, but I was willing to jump on the sword to allow for Twentysix to hookup with this 7 because he lives in Toronto and he could have made her a GF.  The thing was though, once I got back to her house, and the excitement of the club was gone, AGAIN I just couldn’t do it.

I took her downstairs and took her shirt off, but then I got LMR and lockup and called it off.  I told her to chill out and talked baby-talk to her until she fell asleep.  hahaha, this girl woke up the next morning with her shirt off, and not having fucked me.  I was long gone.

So where am I going with this?  Girls get the same thing.  Big time.

When you pull a girl from a loud club, within seconds it can go from:

  • you two are yelling at each other over the noise, listening to music, getting hyped from the crowd, being in a warm environment

to

  • dead quiet, dark parking lot, two of you talk and SOUND different, nobody is around, fantasy cognitive dissonance environment of the club is gone

It KILLS buying temperature.

Now I find that many girls you pull are semi-drunk, and they won’t usually notice it.  But if their buzz fades, they may call it off.  Also, you see some of them coming out of state if you have to drive them back to their house, because you can’t keep up the act on the car ride.  In a taxi its different, because you can make out the whole way home.

One thing that I’ll do is that when we’re leaving the club, I’ll say shit like “The music will be gone in a second.. this will be weird, this will be weird..”, so that they’ll realize it before it happens.

Also key, is that I always try to isolate my girl, or bring her group, OUTSIDE.

That way, we can talk at a normal volume and see each other in a normal context.  That, IMO, reduces flaking, because its not as weird when you call her the next day.  Of course instant-date builds comfort also, because she sees that you’re fun to hang around outside a club context.

ANOTHER state breaker though, that’s even WEIRDER is VOICE TONE.

Like I’ve had girls who I was talking to in one voice tone, and when I switched it up they’ve said “What are you doing?  Why are you talking like that?”  And then they drop state, and I have to go back to my old voice tone to re-initiate it.

You can see problems with this when you try to phase shift too early, and you slow down your speech but the girl just gets bored because her buying temperature wasn’t stabilized yet.  Also, you see it with the hardcore C&F ball busting, when you try to build connection.  You just lose attention instantly.

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