I have a girlfriend who is a hooker.
No, not a prostitute. She has serious feminine charm and uses it to “hook” a guy’s attention. In fact, with just a glance, she can send a “zing” that has guys go for the bait, and stay “on the line” for the rest of the night. Hooked!
I’ve even seen her “hook” guys from clear across the room. From that point, whether she was really interested in him or not she had him “wrapped around her finger.” (Sounds like the female equivalent of a “master pickup artist”, eh?)
While she can attract and capture a man’s full attention this way AND while she is fully aware of the little thrill this gives her, she is also aware that this is an unhealthy pattern for her.
She realizes that it is a cheap ego fix. She hurts and frustrates a lot of guys and it never has her feeling truly fulfilled. It’s like a quick and fleeting little hit from the ol’ VCP (Validation Crack Pipe)…
Of course, women aren’t the only ones who do this. Among the men who take our AMP courses, I often see aspiring “pickup artists” who have worked hard to learn the skills to get women “hooked”.
I used to feel run by my own desire to “hook” women as well. And as I started to become more self-aware, I noticed the Driving Need to prove that I was Good Enough to “get her” – to “hook her” – to “make her like me.” As I explored this pattern further, I could sense the hollowness of achieving this goal.
In the same way that my friend was creating suffering for men, I could also see the suffering that I was creating, for myself, and for the women I was “hooking.” They would get attached to me, and end up getting hurt, because they were just a means to an end for me… a way for me to take a nice toke off the ol’ validation crack pipe.
In this case, a question to ask yourself is this:
Say you could get “your ideal girl” – she’s “hooked.” If you had that, what would it really get for you? Be willing to take a hard, honest look at your REAL motives for relating with women (even if you don’t like what they are), and you may be surprised at what you discover.
LOL I know what you mean, I’m in the US (NJ), but I think that’s why masculine plraoity is SO important here, because the disconnect between a girl’s nature and her Western conditioning makes them SO ILLOGICAL, but at the same time they’re the best possible tools to help us men sharpen our masculinity to the point where they have no choice but to let our male energy unleash their female nature.Like when a woman talks about how she wants commitment? I don’t think she’s pushing for commitment, she’s testing to see whether or not she’s in control of your actions and if she’s able to direct the relationship despite what her conditioned mind may tell her, she becomes more attracted to you when she can trust you to be in control, and on TOP of that, that attraction is supercharged if she knows you’re seeing other women. She only gets upset when she can understand clearly from YOUR behaviour that you aren’t 100% okay with it doing things like hiding other relationships from her, getting angry or withdrawn or whatever if she accuses you of cheating, etc. (Of course, I have no idea why, but it’s a lot easier to establish this kind of frame with a woman the earlier on you meet her, or after a long hiatus, than it is to try and change your own beliefs within a particular relationship.)We men in the West have a unique opportunity to truly experience freedom, choice & abundance because these unique women force us to strengthen our masculine core and evolve beyond co-dependence and into much more grounded, self-reliant interdependence with our women and our world.BTW I love what you’re doing! I’ve been practicing core shamanism for a few years now, and working on pickup & self improvement for years before that, and I’ve worked some tools & techniques into my seduction process for my own purposes.