Here are my thoughts after running about a dozen speed dating nights, and going to 4 myself.
- Speed Dating is a great way to bypass ‘Find’ and ‘Meet’ while you are still unsure of opening
- You get a lot of teachers and nurses, girls who are reasonably attractive and have just exhausted their personal network in trying to meet a guy
- There is often one stunning girl, who all the guys tick. There is often one gorgeous guy, who all the girls tick.
- There is usually a fat girl or two. Sometimes she’s fun, sometimes she’s a pointless bitch who no-one ticks.
- There’s usually one or two geeky, anti-social guys, but in general the guys are well balanced.
- It IS a good way to meet 2-3 decent girls in a night. And 17 ok girls for practice.
- The girls are often the non-clubby type
The two most important notes are:
- The REAL meeting people happens during the break, and after the actual speed dates themselves
- Don’t trust the girl to tick you. Number close her in the break or afterwards.
- Be different to the other 19 guys
- Peacock a bit, but not to the point where you intimidate the girlies
- If possible, sit next to the girl instead of opposite… if you can do this comfortably
- Never give a straight answer at first. Always answer honestly if she pushes, but otherwise, lie about the basic biographical questions
- It is OK if the girls leave the date knowing NOTHING true about you, they can still be attracted.
- Become a social pivot
- Befriend the women blatently out of your age range
- Befriend the guys
- Get talking, arrange a venue change, or get a group to go out the next night… “We should ALL go out!”
- Sit back and relax
- Don’t talk too fast