I’ve packed some powerful Push-Pull concepts and techniques into this article.
(If you don’t know what Push-Pull is, read this article in its entirety. Every guy I know who’s amazing with women uses some form of Push-Pull – even if he’s not consciously aware of it. If you’re NOT currently using Push-Pull, there’s a very good possibility using it could mushroom your current success with women).
Question & Success Story:
To the genuine Dr. of Attraction,
I have read your ebook cover-to-cover and keep going back to it for reference. I’ve tried a lot of other ebooks, cds, dvds etc and wish I’d found your ebook first. From your book I realized that EVERY time I have got the girl, it has been because I have framed myself as the PRIZE.
Success story: The *one* super hot girl in my department(computing!) was sitting behind me in the lecture hall. The seats have a gap at the bottom and she ‘accidentally’ touched my arse with her foot:
ME “Can you stop touching my arse please? If you want to touch me, tell me a funny joke or an interesting story first, I’m not just a sausage with feet!”
She had a split second of shock on her face before bursting out laughing and giggling with her friends periodically for the rest of the lecture. I turned back cool as you like to continue taking notes. As I left the lecture theatre she was walking behind me with her friends:
ME “can you stop stalking me please? I mean all I know about you is that you have good fashion taste, so I forgive you but you should at least introduce yourself”
HER “ok, I’m …”
ME “ok …, I’m off now but you can give me your number”
HER “ok” (writes number)
Long story short: We are now buddies of the fornication variety.
Question: I have no problems with women when I am alone and all they have to judge me on is how I act with them. However, my male friends are natural leaders where I am not and if women see this it drops my PRIZABILITY. I am wondering what meta-frame I should set to be the leader I am with my girl and my friends?
The sausage with feet,
N.B, Manchester, UK.
Swinggcat’s comments:
Consider yourself lucky to have natural leader friends. A woman isn’t gonna stop feeling attraction toward you because your friends are natural leaders. Or think you’re any less of a man. If anything, having natural leader friends will increase your value in a woman eyes. It’s called “social proof.”
Word of Caution: If a woman notices you acting different around your friends or witnesses your friends disrespecting you, any attraction she felt risks being put to its demise. Fried in the electric chair to cinders. If your friends don’t respect you, my advice, get some new ones.
On another note: You, my friend, have mutated yourself into a walking, talking sausage with feet. And have helped pound the myth “computer guys can’t get beautiful women” into jelly. Good job. Give yourself a pat on the back.
“I have read your ebook cover-to-cover and keep going back to it for reference.”
I’ve gotten a lot of emails from guys telling me they read my book cover-to-cover and through putting into practice the tools they learned, their success with women exploded beyond what they use to think was possible. Then months later they went back to my book as a reference guide to improve on specific skill sets and sticking points, resulting in their success with women ballooning to an even higher level.
“From your book I realized that EVERY time I have got the girl, it has been because I have framed myself as the PRIZE.”
Me too. That’s why I wrote a book on it. I’ve noticed that genuine success with women is next to impossible without compelling the woman to FEEL you’re the Prize. Most guys agree with me on this. The problem is: How do You establish yourself as the Prize when interacting with women? Looks and money? I suppose these things could help.
But most of us don’t look like movie stars and don’t sport Bill Gates size bank accounts.
That’s why I’ve developed a method for establishing Yourself as the Prize without the need for good looks or a giant bank account.
Instead of feeling manipulated, women will sigh, “Finally a real man.”
This method exploits some simple psychological truths. So simple and obvious and right in front of people’s faces, most aren’t aware they exist.
“ME “Can you stop touching my arse please? If you want to touch me, tell me a funny joke or an interesting story first, I’m not just a sausage with feet!””
This is great. Our culture has hoisted “getting to touch women sexually” up on a high pedestal. Some women exploit this by making their living selling the right to “sexually” touch them for beau coup bucks. It’s called “prostitution.”
What you did, my man, was bait your fishing pole with a bonbon, cast your line up to her pedestal. And then, hot damn! – She took the bait, chomping down on that delicious bonbon, and she was hooked. You reeled her in down off her throne and into your reality…and the rest is history.
Let’s break down in plain English what you did:
1) Instead of acting like a dumb ass and putting value on getting to touch her, You did the opposite. You put a value on her getting to touch you. The subtext of your words was: “If you want to touch me you’re gonna have to earn it.” You established that you’re the Prize she wants to win over.
2) You exploited one of the big secrets to comedy: doing or saying something unexpected. Women are so used to guys putting value on getting to “sexually” touch them that they feel surprised and titillated when a man does the opposite: When he puts a value on them getting to touch him. Because it’s so unexpected, most women are put in stitches. When women are laughing their guard comes tumbling down, making the attraction process exponentially easier.
3) Women have sexual power over most men. Many women know, for example, their sexuality compels many men to buy them gifts. In male/female interactions, to give you another example, it’s the woman who decides, most females think, if they’re gonna sleep together. Women don’t always exploit these sexual powers. But they know they are there. And they know most men are oblivious to them. Many a woman dream about meeting a man with sexual power over her. Not a rapist or a wife beater. But a man that compels her to want to surrender to him. He’s aware of women’s sexual power and knows how to take it away from them in an attractive way. This is exactly what YOU did.
Is this derisive or manipulative to do to women? Not at all. Women are so used to men bending over backwards to get the opportunity to sexually touch them that they’re bored.
Novel and exciting for women is interacting with a man having the gall to reverse the sexual dynamic. This takes away their sexual power compelling them to surrender to him, and builds heaps of emotional and sexual tension. Women love this and sexually respond to it. It’s flirting at its best.
Opportunities to reverse the sexual power of your interactions with women are abound. In my book you’ll discover the meta-frame: A tool that gives you the eyes to recognize these sexual dynamics and then reverse them, emotionally compelling the woman to want and reach and chase for more of you. Just imagine one moment, a woman asking you to buy her a drink, you applying the meta-frame, and the next, she’s offering to buy YOU a drink and can’t keep her little paws off you. There’s some simple yet powerful psychology that makes the Meta-Frame consistently successful. But I’m NOT gonna reveal this psychology here.
“ME “can you stop stalking me please? I mean all I know about you is that you have good fashion taste, so I forgive you but you should at least introduce yourself”
Now that’s money. Women love this. This isn’t mean. It’s playful banter. You used a special type of tension loop called “Push-Pull.”
A Tension Loop is when you do something to create unresolved emotional tension inside a woman, increase it, release it by bringing closure to it, and then spark it all over again. This will keep her feeling the emotion of wanting and reaching and chasing for more of you.
Soap opera writers use Tension Loops to keep women enraptured in their fictitious dramas for months – sometimes years! The structure is always the same. The soap starts off with some form of conflict or drama, sparking unresolved emotional tension. Emotional tension increases up until the point of the climax. The tension, then, is released by bringing some resolution to the conflict or drama. And, finally, the show ends by sparking the tension all over again, compelling women to tune in for next week’s show.
A special type of Tension Loop is called “Push-Pull.” Push-Pull is whenever you emotionally push a woman away from you…and, then, emotionally pull her back in. Each Push creates an emotional space for each Pull. To get a sense of what I’m getting at, think, for example, of your favorite junk food. What if you went on a strict diet for several weeks, depriving yourself of giving in to your urge to eat your favorite food? What would it be like to finally give in to your urge and indulge? I’m willing to bet it would be more intense than if you hadn’t gone on your strict diet, yes?
When You told her “Can you stop stalking me please?” you were pushing her away from you. But then YOU grabbed her by the scruff of her proverbial neck and pulled her into you with: “I mean all I know about you is that you have good fashion taste, so I forgive you but you should at least introduce yourself.”
Love it. Where most guys go wrong with Push-Pull is that they’re all Push and no Pull (or, conversely, all Pull and no Push).
Some guys constantly Push women away, giving them no validation whatsoever. Sometimes this works. But oftentimes women interpret this as meaning the guy is a mean, manipulative, untrustworthy jerk.
Other guys incessantly try to Pull women in by showering them with compliments and barraging them with attention. This rarely works – especially when first meeting a woman…because it doesn’t give women any emotional space, leaving them feeling claustrophobic.
Also, it communicates to women that the man is needy for validation and approval. When men act this way women think: “He’s not the Prize.” As you know, women feel no attraction toward men who aren’t the Prize.
Women, in my experience, DON’T trust men who are all Pull. They think, “Why’s he being so nice to me? Is he, maybe, trying to get something from me?”
I find it best to mix Push with Pull. Here and there, give her a hard time, challenge her, bust her ball her balls…and so on, while now and then sprinkling in compliments, giving her hints that you like and accept her (If you’ve studied my book you know how to Push a woman away from you and Pull her in, at the Exact same time. Powerful, isn’t it?). This combo is lethal, driving women to think to themselves, “there’s something dangerously sexy about this guy but I can’t put my finger on it.”
Push/Pull is the creme de la creme of attraction tools. Master Push/Pull and you’ll leave women no choice but to feel attraction toward you…even if they’re repulsed by your physical appearance. Realize that this is a newsletter and I’m only scratching the surface of Push/Pull. In my book, you’ll learn six types of Push/Pull: Intentional Undermining, Guilty Conscience, Emotional Rollercoaster, Revealing & Concealing, and Good Cop/ Bad Cop. You’ll discover body language techniques for using Push/Pull andread about a powerful Push/Pull secret for getting physical with a woman…even if she tells you, she’s not attracted to you. My book is the only place on the planet where you’ll learn about Push/Pull. This, however, only scratches the surface of what you’ll gain from my attraction guide. It’s a complete education on attracting women, giving you the tools to transform yourself into the kind of man women feel attraction toward. Just think what it will be like to finally have the skills and confidence to plop your butt in the driver’s seat while interacting with women, giving you the power and choice to take your interactions with them in the direction you want. Start getting this area of your life taken care of right now by downloading my book.