You are walking down the sidewalk when you see your ideal woman, total goddess, walking toward you.
Now when you think about, it seems like it might be the most natural thing in the world to genuinely go over and interact with this beautiful creature, and yet for most men that’s not the case.
Quite the contrary, right?
“I’m genuinely attracted and interested in these women and yet I’m consistently terrified, terrified to approach them…What’s up? What’s going on here?”
This is where coming at this from an inner game perspective can make a huge difference, FAST.
A lot of women, women that we are just undeniably drawn to, are literally radiating a lot of what I call ‘feminine energy’.
Yet ironically, for a lot of men this is both the source of your attraction and your contraction.
We close down in the face of her radiance because of how little capacity we have to receive or be with a lot of sensation in general.
In more common language we’re getting “blown out”. She’s kicking a lot of feminine juju and we’re getting energetically short-circuited before we even start our approach. Starting to sound familiar now?
Later on you’ll realize what you would’ve liked to say, or the perfect joke you could’ve made…Yet for many if you it’s as if you’re not functioning, literally short-circuiting, in those moments.
Men can proactively cultivate more presence with radiant women.
You might have to experience this directly to fully understand it, but you might have noticed that a lot of men who take to this work more naturally have practiced a lot of martial arts or yoga. They have actively cultivated the capacity to fully be with a lot of sensation and intensity without losing their center.
Whether you go out and start working on your black belt or not, I’ve actually found that for most of you simply becoming aware of how you close off from feeling can make a huge difference. With or without intense training, you can be with a lot more energy than you think, once you at least know to try.
Really Get This: The source of you shutting down with extraordinarily beautiful women, in those clutch moments, is you shutting down from what you’re feeling!
Now, what to do about it?
You have to start by getting familiar, real cozy with the particular ways that you habitually close off from intense sensations. Your hands get clammy, knot in your stomach, you start thinking not so empowering thoughts repeatedly…?
What are the specific ways you personally shut down what you’re feeling?
Start tracking the sensations in your body and the thoughts that fire off. Keep breathing deeply…because holding tight and stopping your breath are all good ways to avoid feeling.
By bringing awareness to these reactive tendencies, without trying to suppress, change or fix them, we begin to make room for them. And this is the beginning of having freedom from these reactions.