THINK BEYOND THE MEDIUM!
This has always been the core of my PU skills. I’ve always ranted about THINKING BEYOND THE MEDIUM.
Unfortunately not too many people understand what I mean when I say “think beyond the medium”. This post is a pretty good example of what I mean.
Anyways let’s roll! 🙂
One example is body language. I’m sure everybody here has read TD’s post about the 25 points. It’s a great post. Unfortunately I can’t keep track of all 25 things in my head.
My solution was to just say to myself, “Hey this is who I am and I’m gonna do whatever I have to, to achieve my goals! And if someone else doesn’t like it, then fuck ‘em!”
Then I’m totally relaxed and comfortable when I’m out PUing. Then all of the 25 points fall right into place! I’ll even do things like lean in and it still won’t matter. Why? BECAUSE I DON’T GIVE A FUCK!
The medium here is body language, but in order to fix my BL I had to think beyond BL. I had to think about how I felt about myself instead and fix that.
Here’s some insights I’ve learned about myself lately:
1. Falling into a rhythm:
Ok, you boys know that I run a natural game. I just basically go with whatever I feel and run with it. I don’t try to impress, entertain, run routines, etc when picking up chicks. I just go by what I feel, calibrate slightly to the type of chick I’m talking to and just flow with it.
There are advantages and disadvantages to running this type of game. The biggest advantage is that it makes the game very simple and easy. You don’t need to think, you just flow with the interaction.
Another thing is that you fall into a rhythm or pattern of doing things. This can be both good and bad depending on what that pattern of behavior and your goals are.
When out PUing in a club, I always fall into a rhythm. That rhythm dictates my behavior for the rest of the night. For instance, if I hook up with other people before hitting up the clubs, then I fall into what I call “party mode”.
From there on I get into a rhythm of just going out to have fun and not worrying about picking up chicks. I do approach and talk to chicks but I’m not sexual cuz I’m only out to have fun and don’t focus on any particular target. What usually happens is that at the end of the night, either a chick is really interested and becomes aggressive enough to pick me up or I go home alone.
This has been a problem when guys that I’m “teaching” want to meet and hook up before hitting the clubs. Then I fall into what I call “teaching mode”.
This is where I’m just observing, teaching and helping other guys pick up and get laid. All the while I don’t PU for myself, I do it strictly to help other guys out. This is a bad habit that I picked up. Of course the guys I help out think it’s great! 🙂 But for me it usually turns out to be a waste of an evening. What’s really fucked up is that I don’t even recognize that I get into this mode, so I never get out of it.
Now the time when falling into a particular rhythm fucking ROCKS is when I’m focused on going out to PU and not bullshit around. I can #close several different chicks and still pull a chick the same night back to my place or hers. I’ve done it before lots of times so I know it’s possible. The trick was to figure out how to get this to happen EVERY single time I go out. The answer for me is to decide what my goal is for the night, go out by myself and then just fucking do it.
I can still meet guys when I’m out, but when PUing, I’m PUing.
Haha, I remember a time when one of my “padiwans” asked me if some of his friends could join us, cuz they also wanted to improve their PU skills. I didn’t mind as long as they stayed out of my way. This was when I fell into “PU GOD mode”. 🙂
I was the first one to arrive in the pub. By the time they showed up, I was already into a 5-set. The chicks all shifted positions so the hottest one moved and sat right next to me. We exchanged numbers and she didn’t want me to leave, all before we even hit the club! Not a bad start! 🙂
I eject from the 5-set to meet the guys. I tell them right away that I’m not teaching tonight and to just stay the fuck out of my way. I was firing on all cylinders that night! I #closed every target I approached, had chicks buying me tequila shots, setting up a day2 with one chick and then making out with her girlfriend, etc! 🙂
I’m sure these new guys thought that I was a real asshole! 🙂 But unfortunately this is what I have to do in order to achieve my goals.
The medium here is PU consistency, but in order for me to be more consistent at PU, I had to think beyond PU, routines, openers, etc. I had to look at the way I was behaving in certain situations and why. Then look at how that was affecting my game. Then make the changes in my behavior and BAAAMMM!!!
Better PU consistency! 🙂
2. How I connect with chicks:
Ever since I found mASF and started to seriously get into the game, I’ve had a tough time feeling any sort of connection with any chick, no matter how HOT she was. I would go out to PU and pull chicks weekend after weekend and feel absolutely NOTHING for them. Last year was a record breaking year for me. I fucked more chicks in that one year then all the other years put together. For those of you who are statistic freaks, it was 40+ chicks. I don’t remember the exact number cuz I never really kept count. Fuck, I don’t even remember half of their names!
But the whole time I felt NOTHING for these chicks, a lot of them wanted relationships and would try to snag me into an LTR, but I would just get bored or they’d turn out to be LSE/psychos and I’d leave them.
After doing the find ‘em, fuck ‘em and forget ‘em thing I was worn out. Let me tell you boys, that shit does wear you down. I wanted to find a nice LTR/mLTR and just enjoy my life a little more. But seriously I just couldn’t connect with chicks. They would be attracted to me and connect with me, but I felt nothing for them. I was starting to accept that maybe this is the way things will always be from now on.
But then it finally happened! I always used to meet chicks in the fuck venue. We’d get together and have sex, that’s it. So I decided to change things a bit.
Then I met this one chick and started doing things with her. We had a great time together and connected on so many levels. It was awesome! For the first time since my LTR of 10 yrs ended, I felt something for a chick.
Don’t worry boys, Razorjack hasn’t developed one-itis! 🙂
The important thing was to figure out HOW I connected with her. For me it was all about getting away from the club scene, and seeing these chicks in a different light, in a different setting, in a different environment and getting to know them for who they are and ACCEPTING that, while doing fun things together.
I was so happy that I FINALLY was able to do this and it felt great! And the best part?
The best part is knowing that I can recreate this with any chick (as long as they are not LSE psychos!) because it is NOT the chick that makes me feel this way, but ME MAKING MYSELF FEEL THIS WAY! HA! What an epiphany! It’s like waking up from a coma! 🙂
The medium here is connecting with chicks. Thinking beyond connecting with chicks and more about myself and my behavior, was exactly what I needed to do in order to achieve what I wanted.
So after reading this rant of mine, what did ya boys learn?
Well I’ll tell ya then! The lesson here is:
1. First figure out what your goals are, what you want to achieve, where you want to go, etc.
2. Get to know yourself, how you behave, how you do things, how you motivate yourself, how you learn, etc.
3. Once you understand where you want to go and understand how and why you do the things you do, then change that behavior so you can get what you want!
Solving the problems that I described above wasn’t about new routines, openers, qualifiers, affirmations, etc. It wasn’t even about PU!
It’s beyond the medium, beyond PU!
It was about me learning how I behave and why that was preventing me from getting what I wanted. Then I change that behavior and guess what?
My PU problems are solved without even thinking about PU!
So if you guys are having problems with PU, THINK BEYOND THE MEDIUM!