You are on the first date with a girl you have a crush on. Your palms are sweating, you are trying damn hard to come up with something funny to say, only to have long silences in your conversation.
She gets up after an hour and says: “Sorry but it’s getting late. I have to go home to feed my dog.” Before you could say something, she has left already.
I’m sure the above situation has come up in your worst nightmares. The most crucial part of your interactions and the key to success with women is the first date. If you do it well, it will be easy to get down and dirty quickly.
Most guys do something boring on the first date. Going to the movies together, sitting at a cafe, having an expensive dinner at a restaurant – the list is endless. It’s easy to use this to your advantage: by putting in a little bit of fantasy, you will be way ahead of the crowd.
Here is how:
When I go out with a woman, I take her on an “adventure date”. This word has multiple meanings as you will see. We do something exciting and romantic in the same time. Something that brings you as close as it’s possible on a first date.
Let’s see an example:
A friend of mine takes his girls on an exciting outing. They visit one of the local sightseeing locations and end up at an abandoned ruin of a castle. By then it’s usually getting dark – don’t worry though, my friend is there to hug and provide safety for our just-a-little-bit frightened girl 🙂
Another example:
We have a hill in my city with a castle and some monuments on the top. There is a tunnel crossing the hill. A tunnel, which ends in a bridge. The bridge is illuminated at night giving a wonderful sight.
Usually, I take my date on a short walk among the monuments. As it is getting dark, we go on a tiny little road down the hill. A road, which leads us to a place that only a few people know: the top of the tunnel. And below us it’s the entire city giving a wonderful and romantic sight. This is the point where I go in for the first kiss with the girl.
Don’t think that you need special places or monuments to go on adventure dates. You can even do them indoors:
When the weather doesn’t allow going outside, I bring my girls to the local shopping center. We sit to a cafe and talk a bit. Then I stand up and invite them for a walk around. We visit a few shops while shopping some clothes for me. Then we play bowling or go to the local bookstore. It’s funny to laugh at the various love and sex advice books together with the girl.
The above are just examples, it’s easy to come up with your own ideas. All you need is a little bit of fantasy and to know your city a little. Check out a local city guide paper for some examples or ask a friend who knows.
The key of adventure dates is not in the adventure itself, but in sharing activities with the girl. If you sit to a cafe and stay there for 4 hours, it will be nothing more than a conventional date. But if you sit to a cafe, then visit other places as well while being together, she will lose her sense of time and feel like you’ve known each other for a while. In that state, it’s much easier to go in for the first kiss and get further.
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First of all, I’m sorry that you’re feeling so down. I want to tell you touhgh that I don’t think you’re looking for girls for the right reasons. And I’m not saying they are or are not making determinations based on the scar, but you are obviously very paranoid about it. They have done studies where they told people that they would paint a scar are their face and then they wanted them to walk into a crowded waiting room. For half of the subjects, they painted with water (so there was no scar) and the other half they really painted a scar. Surprisingly, not one of the subjects claimed to not have had their feelings hurt. Even those who touhght they had scars but didn’t saw people staring at it and heard people talking about it, when in reality, there was no scar there to talk about or look at. This is something to keep in mind. It is true that girls like guys with confidence. But, I want to get back to the point of your search for a girl. The girls that would probably love you for who you are, are probably the exact girls who you are pushing away with your attitude of wanting to jump on every girl that gives you a chance. Those who will look past the scar to see the true you, have already seen that, and aren’t liking what they’re seeing. If you want some advice (from a girl), try being genuinely kind, without wanting to kiss five seconds after meeting a girl. There may be a girl (or more than one) watching you from afar that you don’t even know exists, but she’s turned off by seeing you attempt to get at every girl who stops and gives you five seconds of their time. Try taking a step back. Don’t get down on yourself. Walk with your scar held high, and be proud of it. When I was little and had the chicken pox, I had a huge one right in the middle of my forehead, and my sister and I were messing around, and her fingernail accidently scratched it off. It never healed, and actually left a giant hole in the middle of my face. For the next few weeks, I touhght no one was looking at anything else, but I discovered over time that anyone who cared that I had a huge hole in my face probably wasn’t worth talking to in the first place. Now I’m married to a wonderful, beautiful man, and I am as happy as can be. I have a friend who had surgery on her spine and has this horribley huge scar running all the way down her back. She wears bikinis now, and the guys ADORE her. I’ve seen a guy with a huge gash in his chest, very deformed scar that made his chest look twisted, and the girls that he showed it to didn’t care one bit, and that’s because they were good girls. They say that what matters is on the inside, but I’m not sure why people don’t believe that anymore. I also suffer (very greatly, I might add) from acne, and have for a very long time. You can feel like everyone in the world looks at you and is disgusted. One time, a boy said to me in the hallway, Didn’t you know that it’s not Halloween anymore? . I spent years after that believing that no one could be uglier than myself, but do you know what? When I said something very vague about acne to some of the people at school one day, they couldn’t believe that I worried about it as much as I did. That conversation made me realize that we aren’t really judged by people as much as we think that we are. If you see someone with a scar on their face, will you turn away in disgust? I’m sure you wouldn’t, especially after what you’ve been through. And your friends don’t care, so why should you be so worried about a girl? She’ll come around, I promise. And you’ll be so glad when she does that you didn’t give up on yourself. I don’t know that I can offer you much more than that. I would love to tell you how handsome you are, touhgh I obviously have never seen you before. But I CAN tell you that from your words, you sound genuinely kind and compassionate and I wish you all the best of luck. Scars? Psh no biggy. You could have much worse deformities or even have had your limbs amputated. Try to be more thankful that all it is is a scar. May sound harsh, but it’s the truth. If you own the scar, it will turn from being a burdon to being part of who you are, and that’s what makes people gawk in awe.