IMPORTANT CONCEPT – NOT TO BE IGNORED – SO FUCKING IMPORTANT:
Please try to follow me here, and re-read if necessary. The PROBLEM with opening with a QUESTION like “where is that shirt from”, or a “hi” (which basically is another way of saying “I’d like to chat”), is that it is the EQUIVALENT of when you are following the SEQUENCE that I recommended, and she says “what’s your name?”.. A reminder for those who don’t remember – in my earlier post I commented that if you open well, and do C&F for a while, you KNOW that she is at her BOILING POINT (IOW, she is attracted now) when she says “what’s your name”, or something to that effect, because that is HER WAY of telling you “I am attracted now, so please help me to get to know you so that we can fuck”.
So when YOU open with a question about HER, or a “hi”, that is TELLING HER the SAME THING as when she asks you your name (which ANY pickup artist who is constantly IN THE FIELD will tell you, is a major sign that she is into you).
Basically, when you open with a question about HER, or a “hi”, you are GIVING AWAY THE MILK FOR FREE. You are telling her “I AM SOMEBODY WHO LIKES YOU, BEFORE I EVEN CHATTED YOU”.
Now on an AI (approach invitation), this is FINE, because you have projected value through your LOOKS or PRESENCE. But on a COLD APPROACH this is sometimes FATAL.
The REASON that alot of guys recommend this kind of approach, is that they are NOT laying chicks, and base their ADVICE only on what structured good INTERACTIONS, and not LAYS. Since they really don’t know what CONSISTENTLY leads to SEX, they base their results on what lead to good CONVERSATIONS where the chicks don’t put up walls. Because “hi”, or an interested question typically WILL structure a good INTERACTION, they report back that it opens WELL.
IN REALITY, although many lays will come from ANY interaction with a chick where you come off confident, it is still not the BEST way to consistently lay chicks. There are BETTER ways.
THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN AN OPINION OPENER AND A “WHERE DID YOU GET THAT” OPENER:
An opener like the DAVID BOWIE OPENER or BLONDE HAIR OPENER is very DIFFERENT than “what does that shirt mean?”, or “how are you”.
WHY??? They are both QUESTIONS right???
NO. They are 180 degrees DIFFERENT.
Please FOLLOW ME HERE. The KEY to a PICKUP is **SUCKING THE GIRL INTO YOUR REALITY**.
When you ask a question about DAVID BOWIE, it’s something that YOU want to know. When you ask about HER, you are IMMEDIATELY CAPITULATING, and not making her EARN your attention. This can WORK on CERTAIN chicks of course. But it is NOT a good PICKUP STRATEGY for a pickup ARTIST.
Again, asking her about anything that detracts from YOUR REALITY is BAD.
So STICK to the STRUCTURE of the openers that I discussed in the “how to sarge for real” post. EXAMINE the STRUCTURE of those openers, and make up NEW ONES whenever you’re bored with the ones suggested.